A eulogy is "a speech that praises someone who has passed away" and is typically given during funeral services. More importantly, a eulogy is a special and memorable moment that honors your loved one who has passed. While this is certainly an optional practice, it may be something that your family may want to have at your loved one's services. Delivering a eulogy may be a daunting task, so here are some tips to help you in your planning and delivery. 

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Tips for Writing a Eulogy

• Take the time to write the eulogy, don't rush.

• Type and print the eulogy and bring it with you (or hand-write in large print). It's OK to read off of the paper. It's more important to be comfortable and say the right words rather than forgetting what you had planned to say by memorizing.

• Keeping the length of the eulogy to about three to five minutes would be ideal.

• Ask a few close family members or friends to review the eulogy for feedback and provide their prospective.

• A eulogy should be simple and remind people of the type of person your loved one was while with us. There is no need to recount a detailed life story of your loved one. Tell your story.

• Include a memorable story that is representative of how your loved one lived their life.

• Having a few humorous parts of the eulogy would be appropriate and memorable. 

• Focus only on the positive aspects of your loved one's life, not the negative ones. 

• It's difficult to stay strong, and if you become emotional, everyone will understand and be supportive. 

• Bring a small bottle of water and tissues with you in case you need it.

• It's OK to not make eye contact with the audience. Focus on the words you want to say.

• Speak from the heart.

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Important Note: While many churches allow eulogies during the funeral service at the church, some churches ask that eulogies be given at the funeral home or cemetery. A church leader may ask for a copy of the eulogy to ensure it is aligned with church teachings as well. Please check with your funeral director to coordinate a eulogy with the church.